Checklist of Flaws and Assets

Make a separate list of the character Flaws you believe may be affecting your life in a negative way and write an example of how that Flaw has affected you in a negative way.. eg. I tried to control my girlfriend and she left me.

Focus on how to change these Flaws.

Your character Assets can go on your grateful list!!!

Dysfunctional ways of acting, feeling or thinking which cause me or others pain.

Character Flaws ...............Character Assets

aggressive, belligerent ...................... good-natured, gentle

angry   ............................................... forgiving, calm, generous

apathetic           ................................. interested, concerned, alert

apprehensive, afraid           ............... calm, courageous

argumentative, quarrelsome          ... agreeable

arrogant, insolent       ....................... unassuming, humble

attacking, critical ........................... fair, self-restrained

avoidant ............................................ faces problems and acts

blocking honest .................................. intuitive

boastful ............................................. modest, humble

careless                 ............................. careful, painstaking, concerned

cheating ............................................. honest

competitive (socially)        ................. cooperative

compulsive ......................................... free

conceited¹,self-important ............. humble, modest

contradictory, oppositional|          .... reasonable, agreeable

contrary, intractable, pigheaded reasonable

controlling .......................................... lets go, esp. of other's lives

cowardly ............................. brave

critical   ............................................. non-judgmental, praising, tolerant

cynical    ............................................ open-minded

deceitful guileless.............................. honest

defensive ........................................... open to criticism

defiant, contemptuous           ............ respectful

denying honest.................................. accepting.

dependent ........................................ accepts help but is self-reliant

depressed, morose .......................... hopeful, optimistic, cheerful

dirty, poor hygiene  ........................... clean

dishonest³                 .......................... honest

disloyal, treacherous  ........................ faithful, loyal

disobedient .............................. obedient

disrespectful, insolent           ............. respectful, reverent

enabling ............................................. setting boundaries, tough love

envying^2,3 ................................ empathetic, generous, admiring

evasive, deceitful ............................. candid, straightforward

exaggerating ...................................... honest, realistic

faithless, disloyal .............................. reliable, faithful

falsely modest ................................... honest, has self-esteem

falsely prideful ................................. modest, humble

fantasizing, unrealistic ...................... practical, realistic

fearful³ ................................. confident, courageous

forgetful        ................................... responsible

gluttonous, excessive             ......... moderate

gossiping .................................... closed-mouth, kind, praising

greedy ............................... moderate, generous, sharing

hateful³ forgiving, ........................... loving, concerned for others

hypersensitive ............................... tolerant, doesn't personalize

ill-tempered¹, bitchy .............. good-tempered, calm

impatient ........................ patient

impulsive, reckless ................ consistent, considered actions

inconsiderate          ......................... thoughtful, considerate

indecisive,timid ................................ firm, decisive

indifferent, apathetic, aloof caring

inflexible, stubborn     ...................... open-minded, flexible

insecure, anxious         .................... self-confident, secure

insincere, hypocritical ............... sincere, honest

intolerant               .......................... tolerant, understanding, patient

irresponsible, reckless        ............. responsible

isolating, solitary ........................... sociable, outgoing

jealous ............................. trusting, generous, admiring

judgmental      ................................. broadminded, tolerant

justifying (own actions)  ................. honest, frank, candid

lack of purpose          ....................... purposeful

lazy, indolent .......................... industrious, conscientious

loud .............................................. tasteful, quiet

lustful ............................................... healthy sexuality

lying ............................................... honest

manipulative ................................. candid, honest, non-controlling

masked, closed .......................... honest, open, candid

nagging          ................................... supportive

narrow minded      ........................... open minded

obscene, crude ................ modest, courteous

over emotional         ........................ emotionally stable

perfectionistic     .............................. realistic goals

pessimistic........................................ realistic, hopeful, optimistic, trusting

possessive            ............................ open-minded

procrastinates ................................. disciplined, acts promptly

projecting (negative)    ................... clear sighted, optimistic

rationalizing   ................................... candid, honest

resentful, bitter, hateful ... forgiving

resisting .......................................... growing willing to grow

rude, discourteous                    ....... polite, courteous⁴

sarcastic........................................ praising, tolerant

self-important .............................. humble, modest

self-centered ............................... caring of others

self-destructive, self-defeating .. self-fulfilling

self-hating .................................... self-accepting, loving

self-justifying ................................ admitting wrongs, humble

self-pitying .................................... grateful, realistic, accepting

self-righteous                ................. humble, understanding

self-seeking .................... selfless, concerned for others

selfish ............................... altruistic, concerned with others

shy ............................................... outgoing

slothful (lazy) ....................... industrious, taking action

spiteful, malicious            ............... forgiving

stealing........................................... honest

stubborn ........................................ open-minded, willing

sullen .............................................. cheerful

superior, grandiose, pretentious humble

superstitious          ......................... realistic, no magical thinking

suspicious                ........................ trusting

tense ....................................... calm, serene

thinking negatively .................................. being positive

treacherous ............................ trustworthy

undisciplined, self-indulgent          ..  disciplined

unfair ...................................... fair

unfriendly, hostile, bitchy             .... friendly

ungrateful ........................................ thankful, grateful

unkind, mean, malicious, spiteful kind

unsupportive of others           ......... supportive

untrustworthy, unreliable, dishonest|trustworthy

useless, destructive             ........... helpful

vain ............................................. modest, humble

vindictive             ............................. forgiving

violent ............................................ gentle

vulgar ............................................ polite

wasteful ........................... thrifty

willful .............................................. accepting of the inevitable

withdrawn             .......................... outgoing

wordy, verbose         ...................... frank, to the point, succinct

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